Separate Discomfort From Distress
Growth can be uncomfortable, but not every difficult feeling should be dismissed as growth. Learn to notice the difference between discomfort and distress.
Protect One Piece of Your Evening
Don't try to reclaim your entire evening. Start by choosing one small piece that work doesn't get to have.
Audit the Price, Not Just the Paycheck
Your paycheck shows what you're earning. Your wellness may reveal what you're spending to earn it.
Keep a “Still Me” List
Your workplace may shape your day, but it doesn't get to define who you are. Keep five reminders of what is still true about you.
Create a Work-to-Home Doorway
Work can follow us home through unfinished tasks, difficult conversations, stress, and overthinking. Creating a simple work-to-home doorway can help you intentionally decide what stays with the workday and what deserves to come home with you.
Stop Using the Best Day as Evidence
A good day deserves to be enjoyed, but it shouldn't automatically erase an unhealthy pattern. Learn to look beyond individual good or bad days and consider what your environment has consistently been showing you over time.
Give Yourself a No-Explanation No
Saying no doesn't always require a long explanation. Learn to recognize when you're over-explaining your boundaries and practice communicating your decisions respectfully without feeling responsible for convincing someone else to accept them.
Do a Peace Comparison
How different do you feel when you're at work compared with when you're away? A Peace Comparison helps you notice changes in your body, mood, energy, and thoughts so you can recognize patterns you may have stopped noticing.
Check Your After-Work Self
What happens to you after the workday ends? Sometimes the clearest sign of how work is affecting your well-being shows up after you leave. Take a moment to notice what you're carrying home and whether work is taking more of your evening than you realize.
The Private Victory List
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When your environment stops reflecting your value, it’s time to create your own evidence.
You Can Be in Transition and Still Be at Peace
A reflection on finding peace even when life feels unstable, learning to trust the process during seasons of change.