Letting Go of Control and Leading Through Presence

This week, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it really means to let go of control.

Not in a way where you give up…
but in a way where you finally stop fighting something that you already know, deep down, is no longer for you.

I’ve been going through a situation where I could fight.
People have told me, “Get a lawyer… do this… do that…”

And I understand that.

But I also believe there comes a point where you have to ask yourself,
Is fighting even necessary right now?

And for me… the answer has been no.

What’s different is that I’m not overwhelmed.
I’m not crying.
I’m not reacting.

I’m actually calm.

And that calm didn’t come from everything being okay around me,
it came from something settling within me.

I believe everything is happening for a reason.
I may not fully understand it yet, but I trust that it will reveal itself in time.

What I’m starting to see is that sometimes God begins to shift things,
to remove things,
to break things down…
before the actual change shows up.

And if you’re not paying attention, it can feel like loss.

But if you are paying attention…
you realize it’s alignment.

I’ve also come to a place where I know my worth.

And when you know your worth,
you don’t feel the need to prove it.

It’s not my job to make someone see my skills.
It’s not my job to convince someone of my value.

What I’ve offered, my experience, my leadership, my work,
it stands on its own.

And if a space can’t recognize that…
then maybe it’s not the space I’m supposed to stay in.

There’s also a part of me that knows
I outgrew this place a long time ago.

Fifteen years is a long time.

And growth doesn’t always look like staying and fighting to remain.
Sometimes growth looks like recognizing when it’s time to move.

So instead of fighting for a title,
or trying to prove that I’m right,
I’m choosing to walk away with my dignity.

I’m choosing presence.

I’m choosing peace.

And I’m choosing to trust that what is being cleared right now
is a layer of my past that I’ve already outgrown.

Because I can feel it…

There’s something else being prepared.

All the things I’ve been building.
SILWELL-C, Kidz Exec Excellence Inc, building websites, the ideas,
none of that was by accident.

Those were seeds.

And I believe they’re going to come together in a way
where I can fully step into the direction I’ve been growing toward.

So right now, I’m not forcing anything.

I’m not chasing anything.

I’m waiting.

I’m trusting.

And I’m allowing God to finish what He started.

🌿 SILWELL-C Reflection:
When you know your worth, you don’t have to fight for your place;
you trust that the right place will recognize you.