Set Boundaries, Find Peace
Author
Nedra Glover Tawwab
Subtitle
A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
Quick Facts
Author: Nedra Glover Tawwab
Genre: Personal Growth, Relationships, Wellness, Self-Help
Published: 2021
Best For: Educators, leaders, employees, caregivers, wellness advocates, and anyone who struggles with saying no, communicating needs, or protecting their time and energy
Core Themes: Healthy boundaries, self-respect, communication, assertiveness, work-life balance, burnout, relationships, and personal peace
The book presents practical approaches to identifying, communicating, and maintaining healthy boundaries in different areas of life. Tawwab's approach draws on research and practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy, and the book specifically addresses boundaries at work as well as in family, friendships, romantic relationships, and other areas.
What It's About
Sometimes we know something isn't working for us long before we actually say anything.
We keep saying yes.
We explain ourselves when we want to say no.
We accept behavior that makes us uncomfortable.
We take on responsibilities that aren't ours.
And eventually, we become frustrated that other people aren't respecting boundaries that we may never have clearly communicated—or that we haven't consistently protected.
In Set Boundaries, Find Peace, Nedra Glover Tawwab helps readers understand what healthy boundaries actually look like and how to communicate needs clearly and assertively. One of the book's central ideas is that setting a boundary involves both communication and action.
That distinction is important.
A boundary isn't about controlling what another person chooses to do.
It's about becoming clearer about what you need and what you will do to honor that need.
And sometimes protecting your peace begins there.
Why We Recommend It
At SILWELL-C, we talk a lot about creating healthier environments. But we also recognize that we cannot control every coworker, leader, friend, family member, or person we encounter.
Sometimes wellness requires knowing where you end and someone else's expectations begin.
This book encourages readers to:
Identify areas where boundaries may be missing or unclear
Communicate needs without excessive explanation or apology
Recognize the connection between boundaries and work-life balance
Understand that saying no can be a healthy form of self-respect
Examine why setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable
Follow communication with action when a boundary is crossed
Tawwab also explores different types of boundaries and discusses the relationship between boundaries, trauma, work, family, friendships, and other areas of life.
This connects beautifully with something we've been discussing through SILWELL-C:
You don't have to give everyone unlimited access to you simply because they expect it.
Get the Book
📚 Get your copy on Amazon:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace on Amazon
The author's official book page also provides purchasing options, including Amazon.
Pair It With
🌿 Pair it with:Toxic Workplace! by Mitchell Kusy and Elizabeth Holloway
Toxic Workplace! helps readers recognize unhealthy behaviors and workplace systems.
Set Boundaries, Find Peace brings the focus back to the individual:
Now that I recognize what is happening around me, what am I willing, and unwilling, to continue accepting?
Together, the books address both sides of the conversation: the environment and the boundary.
SILWELL-C Reflection Prompt
“Where in my life am I saying yes simply because explaining my no feels uncomfortable?”
